Control What You Can – Leave The Rest to Trust

This week’s Musings are written by one of our Practitioners, Julie Thulin.

Control What You Can – Leave The Rest to Trust

The past few weeks – maybe months – have been a big reminder to me that I can’t control everything……..and having been called a control freak more than once, this is a big deal for me. It’s not like I actually believe I have control over everything, in fact, I’m pretty good at recognizing my limitations. But today – after reading and sharing far too many posts about the US Election debacle my inner voice spoke to me loud and clear………”Julie, you have to let this go.”.

Let it go?!?!? But there’s so much to be said, so many opinions to consider, so much at stake!! “Let it go……..let it all go and trust”

Bam!! That last word – trust – hit me like a ton of bricks. I took a deep breath and realized that somewhere along the way I have forgotten to trust. I used to be great at trusting that everything was playing out as it’s meant to, however the death of my uncle, the dementia diagnosis with my mom, the slow start to my new business……..all these and more had me spending far too much time in my head and not near enough time in my heart. I have been overthinking so many things and areas in my life that the small, powerful voice of my soul has been drowned out by noise that doesn’t serve me. Now I completely recognize this noise is my ego……my need to control things, to make things right, to have a handle on life’s challenges……..but today I was reminded that trust is one of the most powerful tools in my toolbox.

I can’t count the number of times I’ve said to clients and friends “Get out of your head and into your heart, that’s where the power lies” yet I forgot to follow my own fabulous advice.

So today I vowed to follow my own advice and that offered in the Serenity Prayer……. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”

I can’t change the fact the my Aunt has lost her partner but I can trust that she will be fine as she goes through her grieving process. I can love her and support her during this time.

I can’t change the fact that my mom has been diagnosed with Dementia but I can trust that both she and my dad know my love for them is strong and that as a family we will do our best to deal with this hand that has been dealt us. I can ensure that my time with both my parents is filled with creating memories and do my best to take care of them and love them no matter what happens.

I can’t change the fact that I retired from my career to pursue my dream and the process is moving slower than I’d like but I can trust that it’s all unfolding as it’s meant to and I am learning and growing in this process. I can do my work and trust that I am making a difference.

And as for the US election I realize I have no control over what happens there – I can’t even vote – but I trust that enough people will vote from their heart and that whoever takes office understands the power they have to either unite or divide. I trust they choose unity.

Thanks for the timely reminder Julie!
Here’s some re-patterning statemens to reinforce Julie’s thought-provoking perspective!

  • I forgive myself for believing it has to be hard to let go and trust.
  • I give myself permission to do what I do best and trust the rest will unfold in the best wy to support all.
  • My mind can fret and worry or I can live from my heart. I choose to trust, and act from my heart.
  • I am free to do what I can from my heart today by…
  • I know what happens when I trust and live from my heart…it happened when I..
  • I am learning to deepen my trust and live more from my heart and it feels like ME!

For our American friends, keep believing in the best.

The rest of us are holding a space for you to choose from your heart.

Namaste,
Suze

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Control What You Can – Leave The Rest to Trust

This week’s Musings are written by one of our Practitioners, Julie Thulin.

Control What You Can – Leave The Rest to Trust

The past few weeks – maybe months – have been a big reminder to me that I can’t control everything……..and having been called a control freak more than once, this is a big deal for me. It’s not like I actually believe I have control over everything, in fact, I’m pretty good at recognizing my limitations. But today – after reading and sharing far too many posts about the US Election debacle my inner voice spoke to me loud and clear………”Julie, you have to let this go.”.

Let it go?!?!? But there’s so much to be said, so many opinions to consider, so much at stake!! “Let it go……..let it all go and trust”

Bam!! That last word – trust – hit me like a ton of bricks. I took a deep breath and realized that somewhere along the way I have forgotten to trust. I used to be great at trusting that everything was playing out as it’s meant to, however the death of my uncle, the dementia diagnosis with my mom, the slow start to my new business……..all these and more had me spending far too much time in my head and not near enough time in my heart. I have been overthinking so many things and areas in my life that the small, powerful voice of my soul has been drowned out by noise that doesn’t serve me. Now I completely recognize this noise is my ego……my need to control things, to make things right, to have a handle on life’s challenges……..but today I was reminded that trust is one of the most powerful tools in my toolbox.

I can’t count the number of times I’ve said to clients and friends “Get out of your head and into your heart, that’s where the power lies” yet I forgot to follow my own fabulous advice.

So today I vowed to follow my own advice and that offered in the Serenity Prayer……. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”

I can’t change the fact the my Aunt has lost her partner but I can trust that she will be fine as she goes through her grieving process. I can love her and support her during this time.

I can’t change the fact that my mom has been diagnosed with Dementia but I can trust that both she and my dad know my love for them is strong and that as a family we will do our best to deal with this hand that has been dealt us. I can ensure that my time with both my parents is filled with creating memories and do my best to take care of them and love them no matter what happens.

I can’t change the fact that I retired from my career to pursue my dream and the process is moving slower than I’d like but I can trust that it’s all unfolding as it’s meant to and I am learning and growing in this process. I can do my work and trust that I am making a difference.

And as for the US election I realize I have no control over what happens there – I can’t even vote – but I trust that enough people will vote from their heart and that whoever takes office understands the power they have to either unite or divide. I trust they choose unity.

Thanks for the timely reminder Julie!
Here’s some re-patterning statemens to reinforce Julie’s thought-provoking perspective!

I forgive myself for believing it has to be hard to let go and trust.
I give myself permission to do what I do best and trust the rest will unfold in the best wy to support all.
My mind can fret and worry or I can live from my heart. I choose to trust, and act from my heart.
I am free to do what I can from my heart today by…
I know what happens when I trust and live from my heart…it happened when I..
I am learning to deepen my trust and live more from my heart and it feels like ME!

For our American friends, keep believing in the best.
The rest of us are holding a space for you to choose from your heart.

Namaste,
Suze

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Healthier, Kinder and More Loving

Today I swam a mile in 1:21:23!

Okay – that’s one hour, 21 minutes and 23 seconds – from when I left my desk until I was back again! Sixty-four lengths. YES!

 

I’m feeling really capable, competent, and healthy. With exercise I feel better, and I am able to bring more to my relationships, my family and my work!

The Olympics are on and it’s inspiring to watch these dedicated, committed, and highly focused individuals and teams go after their dreams. I could compare myself to Michael Phelps, and come up short. No Olympic medals for me. I’d feel “less than” or “not good enough”. I’ve done that in the past by comparing myself to others…

Or I can recognize that in my own way I have the ability to make my dreams come true and live the life I choose. I’m sure you would agree that it makes no sense to compare my swim time this morning with that of the world’s most decorated Olympic athlete.

Actually, it doesn’t make sense to compare ourselves to anyone else – Olympian or otherwise. Each of us is unique and has special gifts, talents, and capabilities to contribute to our families and communities.

 

  • I forgive myself for believing I need to compare myself to others.
  • I give myself permission to recognize and build on my unique strengths and capabilities and build my best life.
  • I choose to stop comparing myself to others and focus on creating my own best life!
  • I’m free to make the best contribution I can in ways that support me.
  • I contributed to creating my best life today when I
  • With focus, dedication, and commitment I contribute in unique ways and am creating what I want in my life.

This week I am swimming further and stronger than I was this time last year – that’s a sensible comparison! My goal is to continue building on my strengths and swim more regularly – that’s achievable! Our comparisons usually don’t make sense. My 1 mile time included driving from home to the pool, swimming, showering, and returning home! I know Michael doesn’t count the time it takes to wash HIS hair 😉 Seriously – there are always others contingencies to take into account when we compare ourselves to others. I can use comparison favorably to support myself when I compare where I am right now to where I want to be, and make a plan.

My goal: do my 64 lengths from leaving my desk to returning to my desk, (traffic lights and washing my hair included) in 1:15:00 or better. Doable. Worthy goal. I am capable of shaving 6 minutes and 23 seconds off my current best time with regular, committed practice. 
What doable worthy goal will you set for yourself? One of my mentors spoke about 1% better today than yesterday. We each can do that in some area of our lives, and that’s how your dreams are created. One small shift daily.

Each of us, being the best that we can makes this world a better place to be. And…congratulations to all of the Olympic athletes for committing to the Olympic motto of “Faster, Higher, Stronger”. What’s your motto? I’m considering “Healthier, Kinder and More Loving” for mine! 

 

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Healthier, Kinder and More Loving

Today I swam a mile in 1:21:23!

Okay – that’s one hour, 21 minutes and 23 seconds – from when I left my desk until I was back again! Sixty-four lengths. YES!

 

I’m feeling really capable, competent, and healthy. With exercise I feel better, and I am able to bring more to my relationships, my family and my work!

The Olympics are on and it’s inspiring to watch these dedicated, committed, and highly focused individuals and teams go after their dreams. I could compare myself to Michael Phelps, and come up short. No Olympic medals for me. I’d feel “less than” or “not good enough”. I’ve done that in the past by comparing myself to others…

Or I can recognize that in my own way I have the ability to make my dreams come true and live the life I choose. I’m sure you would agree that it makes no sense to compare my swim time this morning with that of the world’s most decorated Olympic athlete.

Actually, it doesn’t make sense to compare ourselves to anyone else – Olympian or otherwise. Each of us is unique and has special gifts, talents, and capabilities to contribute to our families and communities.

 

  • I forgive myself for believing I need to compare myself to others.
  • I give myself permission to recognize and build on my unique strengths and capabilities and build my best life.
  • I choose to stop comparing myself to others and focus on creating my own best life!
  • I’m free to make the best contribution I can in ways that support me.
  • I contributed to creating my best life today when I
  • With focus, dedication, and commitment I contribute in unique ways and am creating what I want in my life.

This week I am swimming further and stronger than I was this time last year – that’s a sensible comparison! My goal is to continue building on my strengths and swim more regularly – that’s achievable! Our comparisons usually don’t make sense. My 1 mile time included driving from home to the pool, swimming, showering, and returning home! I know Michael doesn’t count the time it takes to wash HIS hair ???? Seriously – there are always others contingencies to take into account when we compare ourselves to others. I can use comparison favorably to support myself when I compare where I am right now to where I want to be, and make a plan.

My goal: do my 64 lengths from leaving my desk to returning to my desk, (traffic lights and washing my hair included) in 1:15:00 or better. Doable. Worthy goal. I am capable of shaving 6 minutes and 23 seconds off my current best time with regular, committed practice. 
What doable worthy goal will you set for yourself? One of my mentors spoke about 1% better today than yesterday. We each can do that in some area of our lives, and that’s how your dreams are created. One small shift daily.

Each of us, being the best that we can makes this world a better place to be. And…congratulations to all of the Olympic athletes for committing to the Olympic motto of “Faster, Higher, Stronger”. What’s your motto? I’m considering “Healthier, Kinder and More Loving” for mine! 

 

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Healthier, Kinder and More Loving

Today I swam a mile in 1:21:23!

Okay – that’s one hour, 21 minutes and 23 seconds – from when I left my desk until I was back again! Sixty-four lengths. YES!

 

I’m feeling really capable, competent, and healthy. With exercise I feel better, and I am able to bring more to my relationships, my family and my work!

The Olympics are on and it’s inspiring to watch these dedicated, committed, and highly focused individuals and teams go after their dreams. I could compare myself to Michael Phelps, and come up short. No Olympic medals for me. I’d feel “less than” or “not good enough”. I’ve done that in the past by comparing myself to others…

Or I can recognize that in my own way I have the ability to make my dreams come true and live the life I choose. I’m sure you would agree that it makes no sense to compare my swim time this morning with that of the world’s most decorated Olympic athlete.

Actually, it doesn’t make sense to compare ourselves to anyone else – Olympian or otherwise. Each of us is unique and has special gifts, talents, and capabilities to contribute to our families and communities.

 

  • I forgive myself for believing I need to compare myself to others.
  • I give myself permission to recognize and build on my unique strengths and capabilities and build my best life.
  • I choose to stop comparing myself to others and focus on creating my own best life!
  • I’m free to make the best contribution I can in ways that support me.
  • I contributed to creating my best life today when I
  • With focus, dedication, and commitment I contribute in unique ways and am creating what I want in my life.

This week I am swimming further and stronger than I was this time last year – that’s a sensible comparison! My goal is to continue building on my strengths and swim more regularly – that’s achievable! Our comparisons usually don’t make sense. My 1 mile time included driving from home to the pool, swimming, showering, and returning home! I know Michael doesn’t count the time it takes to wash HIS hair ???? Seriously – there are always others contingencies to take into account when we compare ourselves to others. I can use comparison favorably to support myself when I compare where I am right now to where I want to be, and make a plan.

My goal: do my 64 lengths from leaving my desk to returning to my desk, (traffic lights and washing my hair included) in 1:15:00 or better. Doable. Worthy goal. I am capable of shaving 6 minutes and 23 seconds off my current best time with regular, committed practice. 
What doable worthy goal will you set for yourself? One of my mentors spoke about 1% better today than yesterday. We each can do that in some area of our lives, and that’s how your dreams are created. One small shift daily.

Each of us, being the best that we can makes this world a better place to be. And…congratulations to all of the Olympic athletes for committing to the Olympic motto of “Faster, Higher, Stronger”. What’s your motto? I’m considering “Healthier, Kinder and More Loving” for mine! 

 

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